Friday Finds 3.31.17

HOOoOo HEYYY its FRIDAY!

I feel like I have been burning the candle at both ends this week, so hopefully this weekend will bring some much needed rest (though thats not looking promising. . .

 

Any-who, here is your weekly web:

  1. Mmm, I certainly needed to remember this all week.
  2. Very interesting. . . but I wonder how much of a role personality plays here.
  3. I feel like I could get behind this thinking… in fact, I wonder if more grown-ups would benefit from their own “toy-free” time.
  4. Hurts so good.
  5. Time to get making.

 

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Health and Fitness Resource Round-up

Hello again friends.

I am currently figuring out some technical details to improve our weekly workouts (thanks for having grace for that). You know I couldn’t leave you hanging in the mean time, so I am coming at you with a round up of some of my favorite fitness resources.

Form and basic movement:

  1. Bodybuilding.com
    This is a great place to find exercise ideas and demonstrations of basic moves. If you are ever working out at home, and are unsure of your form, this is a great place to go and double check. The best part is the side bar that allows you to select what body part you want to work, along with what equipment you have available to build a great routine on your own. I have linked specifically to the “exercise finder” but there are tons of resources available here, such as lifting plans, meal plans, and exercise videos.
  2. Fitness blender
    Another helpful round-up of individual movements. Like Bodybuilding, this site also includes other helpful resources like workout videos, plans, recipes and more.

 

Fitness blogs:

These are a few of my go to blogs. Most of these include a little bit of everything, exercise, recipes, motivation, information etc.

  1. Pumps & Iron
    I talk about this one often. I think this lady is amazing and I love just about everything she does. You can find work out based on structure, equipment, and target area. Nicole offers a great variety of workouts to do from home, or in the gym.
  2. Popsugar Fitness
    If you have ever wanted to try one of the latest fitness trends but don’t want to commit to a boutique gym before you know you like it, chances are you can find a video and give it a whirl over at Popsugar. They have all kinds of work out videos from popular trainers and many other resources like health and fitness related articles, recipes, blog posts and more.
  3. Yoga with Adriene
    I will confess, yoga is not my jam, but I am sure some of you find it to be just the jam you want. Whenever the mood hits me, I head straight for Adriene’s page. She is easy to follow and great for beginners or pros alike.

 

Apps:

  1. Nike Training Club
    friends, this one is a must! FULL of workouts you can do from your phone wherever you are with whatever you have. Get. It!
  2. Interval Timer
    I am sure there are plenty of fancier interval timers out there, but this one gets the job done for me. If you ever want to create your own timed workout, this has everything you need.
  3. My Fitness Pal
    If you are looking for a way to pay more attention to what you are eating (in a way that is healthy for both your body and MIND of course) this app is what you need.

 

Food/motivation/encouragement:

  1. Andie Mitchell 
    Andie wrote a beautiful memoir telling of her weight loss journey, which is a sweet reminder that while health is important, loving yourself is as well. She is full of grace and kindness and balance. Oh, and her food just looks so darn tasty.
  2. Food Faith Fitness
    so much yum. I love how easy FFF makes it to find recipes based on your dietary needs and how she easily turns not so healthy favorites into better for you goodness. Mmm
  3. Mind Body Musings Podcast
    This is more for mental health, and though there are a few podcasts I love along this vein, so as not to overwhelm you, I’ll start with this one. Maddy was a former fitness competitor who realized how destructive that world and mentality was for her. Her early episodes focused strongly on body positivity and her current work has grown to include a wider array of holistic wellness topics. I discovered her early on in my fitness journey and I am so glad I did. As an all or nothing person, she offered a balance I really needed.

 

I could keep going and going, but I will leave it at this for today. What are some other health and fitness resources you love?

 

What’s Your Type?

As promised, I am coming at ya with some personality resources. This may get a bit long, and technical, so fasten your seat belts folks.

Myers-Briggs Type Indicator

Far and away, the resource hubby and I find ourselves going back to most often is the Myers Briggs Type Indicator or MBTI. If you have ever heard people throwing around letters like INFP or ESTJ, you have heard of MBTI. Each letter represents your leaning in four different groupings.

  • Introversion (I) or Extraversion (E)
    Deals how you interact with your surroundings and how you are energized. An introvert tends to be energized by time alone, where extroverts tend to be energized by social interaction. Important to mention here, whether you are and I or an E, participating in both alone time and social interaction is SO IMPORTANT! (Like I said last week, knowing what energizes you is good, but letting that  be an excuse is not so good.)
  • Intuition (N) or Sensing (S)
    Describes how we direct our mental energy. This pairing, I find (especially in self-development or Christian circles) is often misunderstood. When we think intuitive, we think in touch with emotions, or being aware of the intricacies of your own thoughts and that of others. While this is true in some senses of the word, in this context that has more to do with the next grouping, how you process decisions and emotion. This pairing deals with how you TAKE IN the information. So, Intuition here is a person who perceive the world as it could be, dreamers and read-between-the-line types. Where Sensing represents those of us who are more pragmatic, and take in the world with out 5 senses.
  • Thinking (T) or Feeling (F)
    Deals with how we make decisions and cope with emotion. The thinkers prioritize logic and reason, while the feelers prioritize feelings and empathy. On Monday I talked about how hubby and I differ here.
  • Judging (J) or Perceiving (P)
    Deals with how we approach work, planning and decision-making. Judging personalities are typically organized and methodical while perceiving personalities are great improvisers.

For all things MBTI we love 16 Personalities. The type test takes about ten minutes to complete and offers so much insight into your particular type. The test results will show you how heavily you responded towards one aspect or the other and offer insight into how you relate in various spheres such as romantic relationships, friendships, parenthood, career, etc. They often publish new articles and resources and include fun little tidbits (like celebrities, or movie/book characters that share your personality).

The verdict is out for me whether I am an ISFJ or ESFJ with a difference of only 7% favoring extroversion. This makes me either the Consul, or the Defender. There are aspects of both that strongly resonate, and some that do not. But I do resonate with being an introverted-extrovert so perhaps that explains it!

 

Enneagram

A favorite of Hubby’s that I am recently diving into is the Enneagram. This separates personality into 9 different types, titled by numbers (as to avoid placing perceived value over any particular type, as is sometimes a pitfall with MBTI and others). While we may see aspects of each of the 9 personalities within ourselves, one or two tend to be dominant. These types reflect the way we perceive and respond to the world from our earliest stages of life, and how strongly we relate to them varies because we fluctuate between the healthy, average, and unhealthy traits within that personality. This healthy/average/unhealthy trait descriptions are perhaps the most helpful aspect of the Enneagram typing. You can test your enneagram type here, and I strongly suggest listening to this podcast after reading about your type (but definitely take the test first!)

I am a 2 wing 3 followed closely by 6 wing 7. This means I am a helper with a bent towards achieving, followed closely by a loyalist with a bent towards enthusiasm. Without even going into detail, the titles sounds about right if you know me, am-I-right?

 

Love Languages

On a very practical level, understanding your love language is so helpful. This measure the way you tend to show and receive love based on 5 types; quality time, receiving gifts,  words of affirmation, acts of service, and physical touch. There is a fantastic book which allows you to dive into this in greater depth, but even a basic understanding of your own, and your loved ones, love language will do wonders. See, we tend to receive and show love in the same way, but the people we are giving that love to might not receive in the way that we show, this is where breakdowns can happen and the ones we love can feel uncared for or unseen. So, Hubby ranks very high in words of affirmation, while that is important to me, it is not my primary language as it is for him. So, it does not come as naturally to me, but recognizing that in him, and making a point to love him in that way, has made all. the. difference. You can take a test for yourself (or for your children, which i would imagine would be SO HELPFUL) on their website.

Four Tendencies

So the four tendencies are very new to me, and relatively new to the world, and I have found it suprisingly powerful. Gretchen Rubin formulated these four types based on all the information she accumulated while working on her book Better Than Before. Her work centers on habits to create a more fulfilling life, so in complimenting fashion, these tendencies deal with how you respond to expectations, both inner and outer. Though we often share aspects of them all, according to her website the four types are:

  • Upholders respond readily to outer and inner expectations
  • Questioners question all expectations; they’ll meet an expectation if they think it makes sense
  • Rebels resist all expectations, outer and inner alike
  • Obligers meet outer expectations, but struggle to meet expectations they impose on themselves

You can determine what you are with her quiz found here. Understanding where you fall within these four tendencies can be so helpful in helping set and reach your goals. For example, I am an obliger to the max, so when I have a goal to achieve, I will be SO MUCH MORE likely to accomplish that goal when I get others involved, have accountability and/or investment in the goal. On the opposite end, a rebel would be completely deterred from reaching their goal with accountability, since the outer expectation actually makes them run in the opposite direction.

 

So there you have it, just a few assessments that will hopefully provide you with as much helpful insight as it has for us. Please follow those links and dive in! I only provided a brief overview here but there is so much more to learn and discover. How freeing is it to feel understood and like you are not alone? How helpful is it to understand the ones you love (or better yet, those who you don’t quite get along with) so that you can care for them more personally?

Have I mentioned that Hubby and I eat this stuff up? PLEASE tell me what you think, tell me other resources you use, tell me if any of this was helpful for you?! I love your feedback.

Thanks for popping in!

 

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Friday Finds 3.24.17

I am sure I do not need to remind you, but just in case, its FRIDAYYYYYY!!! I will be celebrating a good friends birthday tomorrow night and I am PUMPED! This is what I reckon the night will look like…

Hubby is off for grad classes the. whole. weekend. That is a bit of a bummer, but I am looking forward to some recharging time. What are your plans for the freakin weekend?

 

Here’s what I found on the web

  1. If you do anything this week, please give this a listen. Maybe you don’t agree with everything (thats okay), but there are some universal nuggets of GOLD in here. Straight. Up. Gold.
  2. Could it really  be this easy?
  3. Remember Wednesday’s post? Sometimes we don’t fit into neat boxes (also, this pretty much sums me up).
  4. Some helpful tips to tackle your health goals.
  5. If someone wanted to buy this for me, I wouldn’t stop you.
  6. & in honor of birthday celebrations.

 

 

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(in honor of yesterdays national holiday,
and how I intend to spend Sunday 😆😆😆)

” ‘Cause you got, personality”

I had a bit of a breakthrough moment last week.

It feels a bit silly that it took so long, but I am grateful for it nonetheless.

 

Let me give a little setup here. Hubby and I were having a passionate conversation, as we sometimes do (read: we were fighting). After about an hour of heated discussion, tears flowing, I tried to explain the way I was feeling to my darling hubby, and the lightbulb turned on.

 

See, being the philosophers that Bobby and I are, we often discuss, and (less often but often enough) argue about ideas (is that weird?). Part of that, I realize, is that we both are very passionate and analytical people (we both would say this was part of stirring “all the feels” for each other when we met). But what I realized in the midst of this particular argument, was that a large reason these discussions often turn to arguments is because of our personalities.

 

Are you thinking “duh, Meg?”

 

Honestly I am thinking that a little bit too. Of course we disagree because we are different people with different minds and different processing and different ideas.

 

Not only that, but even understanding some of the specifics about our personalities is not new to us. We used personality typing in youth group, in college, in pre-marital counseling. Hubby is all about personality types, loves taking tests and thinking about them. Over meals with friends or family it is not a rare occurrence that we discuss the movie characters, the Harry Potter house, or celebrities, our personalities types are like.

 

So I guess the fact that this is not new information is the “duh” part, but what is not “duh” is another reminder of how valuable these things can be. That’s the goal of telling this story, you see.

 

Understanding personality types, preferences, and tendencies can be such helpful tools for knowing yourself and those around you better, and can even help you take a step back and put out a fire that may have started between you and your passionate people.

 

In that moment with Bobby, the “a-ha” came when I realized that Bobby is a thinker, and I am a feeler. (This is particular way of phrasing is often seen in the Myers-Briggs typing, but I will talk about more specifics later.) See, Bobby is prone to see the world and make decisions primarily with logic, emphasizing truth and the cold hard facts. I, on the other hand, focus on feelings and how people are affected by ideas. You see, in their weak moments, feelers look at thinkers and believe they are heartless or cold, and thinkers look at feelers and believe they are wishy-washy or emotional.

 

That hits the nail on the head for us. We were getting heated because I felt like Bobby was not considering people, and he felt like I was not concerned enough about truth. But the beauty in that moment was, once we realized that, we took a step back and saw that neither one of us was wrong. We could breathe and try to see from the others perspective. I could see that Bobby was frustrated that I was not validating his truth, and he could see that I was frustrated because he was not validating my emotion. Woah.

 

I can’t tell you that cleared up our disagreement completely, but it certainly set us up to discuss ideas like this differently and with much more grace for each other in the future.

 

I always want to be cautious with this stuff though, because it can easily become an excuse for our struggles or shortcomings. You know the idea, “I may be a little harsh, but it’s’ just my personality, I can’t help it” or “my personality is prone to worry, there is just nothing I can do about it.” But, on the opposite end, what is amazing is when we use this awareness of our pitfalls to try our best to step back and recognize when they are taking over. So instead of “I can’t help it” we can say “I know I have a tendency to be harsh, let me slow down and be aware of how I am communicating” or rather than “there is nothing I can do about it” we can recognize “the worry-er in me is coming out, let me step back and calm down before it takes over.”

This post has grown mighty long, so I am going to leave you with a cliffhanger and tell you to tune in next week for some specific personality assessments Bobby and I love!

Do you find self awareness tools like this to be as helpful as I do? What are some personality or tendency typing tools you have used? Let me know and I will feature them next week!

 

Total Body Circuit

Hey there.

For your weekly workout we have a total body circuit. You will complete 2 sets of 5 moves resting a full minute between sets. At the end take another full minute rest and repeat the full workout for a total of 20 minutes.

Go ahead and grab your mat and some dumbbells. Blast your best work out tunes and let’s do it!

You can do your own warm up and then follow along with the video
OR
use an interval timer, like this one (which is set for this workout with a one minute warm up and cool down to do on your own), and follow along with the infographic .

(In the video, by 4 moves I of course mean 5 😝)

Let me give you some detail:

Set 1

  1. Lunge 5’s right:
    With your right leg forward, perform 5 full lunges, lower into your lunge and pulse for 5, then hold low for 5 seconds. Make sure the weight on your front leg is in the heel and your back knee is in line with your hips and shoulders.
  2. Lunge 5’s left:
    As above, with left leg forward
  3. Side curl to overhead press
    With elbows close to your sides and arms out sideways with palms facing up, curl up. twist your wrists so that your palms are facing forward and press overhead. 
  4. Reverse fly to straight-arm kickback
    Lean forward with a soft bend in the knees, sticking your butt out, arms hanging forward in line with chest, palms facing each other. Fly arms outward, squeezing the upper back. Return to starting position (arms hanging) with elbows locked, lift arms straight back keeping close to your body and squeezing the triceps on the top.
  5. Cross Jacks
    Perform a standard jumping jack, crossing feet and arms.

Set 2

  1.  Glute bridges
    Laying on the ground, legs bent with knees up, push your heels as close as possible to your butt. Using your glutes, lift your hips squeezing the whole way.
  2. Chest fly’s
    On the ground with weights in hand, lift arms overhead with wrists in line with elbows. Slowly lower your arms straight out to the ground feeling the stretch in your outer chest (armpit area) return to start squeezing the chest together at the top.
  3. Bicycle crunch
    On the ground with hands behind your head and elbows extended out, knees up and feet of the ground, reach alternating elbow to opposite knee as if you are riding a bicycle.
  4. Plank pike with alternating tap:
    Starting in plank position, push your hips up into downward dog, as your return to plank, with leg parallel to the ground, tap your right knee to your right elbow. Return to plank, then to pike, then tap left knee to left elbow.
  5. Mountain climbers
    In plank position, jog knee to chest.

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